
Originally Posted by
Sage
The thing about "Ur So Gay" is that, like "I Kissed a Girl," it's just entirely wrong on so many levels. Like, I don't think anyone serious or objective could honestly believe that making fun of lazy stereotypes is something that can be done "tongue in cheek" in a song marketed to kids. Like, yes, she was "joking," but the "jokes" are jokes about lazy, lazy stereotypes!
But even if you forgive the gay stereotypes and how they affect out gay men (which you shouldn't), what about kids who get bullied for that sort of bullshit? (Considering bullying is the cause for her "award.") The entire point of the song is to suggest her boyfriend isn't a "real man." The part in the video where the Ken doll is revealed to not have any genitalia is so obviously offensive I don't even know where to begin with someone who can't see that. Which, fine, whatever, I'm not here to police the messaging in music, but an anti-bullying organization giving her an award? Like, news flash, "not even liking boys" has never, ever stopped a kid from getting bullied for being "so gay." Gender-normative bullying is, I would bet, at the root of most gay bullying among kids, and many, many, many straight kids (on top of, obviously, the many gay kids) have had the shit kicked out of them for being "gay." Like, I'm sure there are a few gay kids who find boyfriends/girlfriends when they're 13, but I'm willing to bet that the majority of anti-gay bullying among kids has less to do with actual relationship status than it does with expectations of gender. The contents of that song have everything to do with why kids get bullied. It's a pro-bullying song.